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HOW DO YOU HANDLE ADVERSITY?    

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her.  She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up.  She was tired of fighting and struggling.  It seemed as if as soon as one problem was solved, a new one arose. 


Her mother took her to the kitchen and filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots. In the second, she placed eggs. In the last, she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.  About 20 minutes later, she turned off the burners.


She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she said, "Tell me what you see."


"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," the daughter replied.


The mother brought her daughter closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did, and noted that they felt soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg inside. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee.  The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.


The daughter then asked, "So, what's the point, mother?" Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity - boiling water - but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid center. But, after sitting in the boiling water, its insides had become hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however.  After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.


"Which are you?" she asked her daughter.  "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?  Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"


Now, think of this: Which are you?


Are you the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, you wilt and become soft and lose your strength?


Are you the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Do you have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship, or some other trial, you become hardened and stiff?  Does you outer shell look the same, but on the inside you are bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?


Or are you like the coffee bean?  The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain.  When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor of the bean. 


If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change – actually improve - the situation around you instead of letting it change you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level?


How do you handle Adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?